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Pam & Greg's wedding
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Newlyweds Gregory and Pamela Smart appeared to be the model
American couple. Pam at one time described her life with Greg as
“picture perfect,” epitomizing the promise of a wonderful future.
A great catch, free-spirited and fun loving, Greg was devoted to his
perky 23-year-old bride Pamela Ann Smart, née Wojas. They even had a
cute little quirky thing in common, spelling their nicknames in a
unique nonsensical way: Pamela signed her nickname “Pame,”
pronounced Pammy, and Gregory wrote his as “Gregg”, playfully
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They settled in their quiet, peaceful hometown of Derry. Starting
off their new life together, they moved into an upscale residential
area, a ring of two-story condominiums on Misty Morning Drive. They
rented a squeaky clean, new condo complete with contemporary
furniture, including a white leather couch and attractive decor, two
vehicles, and a small dog, Halen, named after the rock band Van Halen.
Greg, one of three sons, lived only a block away from his parents.
Although not sentimental, Greg was a good man, looking forward to
having children. He proudly bragged to his parents about how Pam would
be a wonderful mother for their future children, if the way she
treated their little Shih-Tzu was any indicator. How she fussed over
the little creature, cooking him scrumptious tidbits for dinner,
taking him for numerous walks around their complex, and protecting him
from any sort of disturbances.
In reality, however, Pamela Smart looked after her own best
interests. Born in Miami, Florida on August 16th, 1967, Pamela readily
admits her egocentricity: “I’m definitely the typical Leo,” she
said. “You know, walk in, have to be the center of everything.
Everywhere I go, I'm always attracting attention for some reason or
another. I'm loud, very outgoing, and stuff.” The second of three
children, with a sister six years older and a brother three years
younger, Pam was close to her mother. She had a strained relationship
with her father. Her father worked as a commercial airline pilot and
her mother as a stenographer. A great organizer, Pam had been working
since she was 13, and with her enthusiasm and sense of humour she was
very popular, even cheerleading for both basketball and football teams
while in school.
Above all, Pamela liked to maintain control of herself and of her
surroundings. She compulsively organized her clothing in color-coordinated
groupings, even neatly folding her dirty laundry into separate hampers
for darks and whites. She also organized her life that way, becoming
upset when her tight schedule was disrupted.
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Pam Smart, pinup pose
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Approaching their twenties, Pam and Greg hit it off immediately at a
New Year’s Eve party at the end of 1986, dating exclusively about a
month later. They both shared a passion for heavy metal music. Greg
even strummed on a guitar. That was part of what drew Pam to Greg. His
5-foot 10-inch, 170-pound frame, toned from hiking, skiing and
fishing, with his baby face was very appealing. But it was his long
curly shoulder-length locks that Pam adored. In contrast, Pam’s
petite frame, china-doll face and vivacious personality attracted
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But the trouble started soon after their wedding. Greg began to
grow up. He became more conservative, having decided to work with the
same company as his father did as an insurance salesman, and his
ambition paid off. He created a whole new image. Even his dedication
to rock music had declined, although he still enjoyed good equipment,
like the expensive speakers in his Toyota pickup truck, and he still
enjoyed heavy metal music. There was no longer such an intense
interest anymore. Instead he was becoming an accomplished saleman,
spending his recreational time with his friends.
The shocker for Pam came when Greg cut his shoulder-length hair.
Her initial attraction to him was his long hair, looking like the rock
star Jon Bon Jovi. Pam now thought Gregg looked more like a New
England yuppie.
Their picture perfect marriage was only a façade and a mere seven
months into the marriage Pam and Greg began having serious problems in
their relationship. Nearing their first anniversary, Greg confessed to
Pam that he was having an affair. But then Greg had confided in his
parents his plans for a party to celebrate their first anniversary,
just a week later, and then planned to fly to Florida. “If there’s
anything Pam really loves, it’s lying on the beach,” said Greg.
“She’s a real sun bunny.”
From then on, however, every time they got into an argument, Pam
brought up the affair. “I didn’t feel as important anymore,” Pam
would later testify. “Obviously it affected my trust.”
Unbeknownst to Greg, having more passion for her career, Pamela
wanted out of the marriage.
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