The True Story of John Raymond "Woody" Woodring
Talk To Me,
Bonnie sent back only one reply, at 1:19 p.m., regarding the money Woodring had mentioned the previous day:
"Have someone drop monies off at the front desk... not you."
The message was short and to the point. Nonetheless, Woodring continued to flood Bonnie's inbox with messages, and over the course of the next five hours, he kept himself busy. He ordered flowers for Bonnie and had them delivered to her employer along with a video message for her, which he posted on their website under the title "I am sorry Bonnie." The video showed photos of the two honeymooning in Hawaii and was set to music with lyrics including "I'm sorry that I hurt you."
In addition to the video, Woodring sent a text message to his wife, which read: "Bonnie, I am so very sorry for everything that has happened. You mean more to me than anything in this world. I know some things can be taken back, but I will do anything for a chance to turn things around."
Woodring then fired off another email to Bonnie at 3:40 p.m., begging her to talk to him.
"Bonnie, I love you, please talk to me about where we or I went wrong. I love you so very much! Please just watch what I made you on the website. I am so sorry for what I have done. You should know that I don't want to be that person. The thing is that I was not even angry at you. I was just hurt that you were pushing me away again and I just didn't know why... I miss you so very much! Please talk to me."
Three minutes later:
"I promise to give you the time you need, but please just talk to me this way? I love you and I think deep down you have to know that we truly had something special that few couples have."
Five minutes later:
"I want you to know that I am not going to bother face to face anymore. I miss you and I want to talk but I want you to feel safe doing it. Would you please talk through email? I can't say I am sorry enough for what has happened. I love you Bonnie Woodring."
Perhaps finally realizing his emails were not having the desired impact, Woodring logged into Bonnie's Yahoo account and sent her an email from her own address. Regardless of his intent, it was just plain creepy:
"Bonnie Please call your husband today on his cell phone. I wish I could be that inner voice and that place inside you that knows that I love you so very very much!"
Woodring waited a half-hour before sending another message, in which he told Bonnie that she would be receiving flowers from him. His subsequent emails became increasingly desperate. At 6:13 p.m., he pleaded:
"Bonnie, I have tried everything just to get you to talk to me just a little bit. I know that what I did really scared you and I am sure you have some strong emotions right now. I love you so very much and you are all I can think about. I mean Bonnie, I waited my whole life for a special person to come along like you. Please do let my fk up ruin our life. I know you know that I am not that person. I am loving, and gentle. I am missing so much of the small stuff. I really miss washing your hair and just laying on your lap. Please talk to me honey!"
Not long after sending this email, Woodring was notified by the florist that Bonnie had refused the delivery of his flowers. Enraged that she had refused his "gesture of love," he wrote her another email, complaining about the money he had wasted on the gift, but beseeching her forgiveness.
"You just cost us $100.00," he wrote. "I understand you being angry, but please let me try!"
Bonnie did not reply. Still fuming over the lack of response, Woodring sent a final email to Bonnie, timestamped 9:04 p.m.
"Bonnie, I wanted to email you this last time. I just spoke with mother and I need you to know something. I do not blame you at all for how you feel. I don't blame you at all! I will not be trying anymore. I have left you a letter and I will be out of your life forever. I hope you find peace with that. I never wanted this to happen. I have heard some things that you told my mom I had done and I would like you to know that you are getting what people want you to hear.
"I never cheated on you and I never had any girlfriends while we were married. I think you need to also realize that you didn't have to leave this time. I was towing the line! I really was. However, you will get a letter of last wishes from me and I just hope that after I am gone we could meet again because you are my soul mate and I truly believe that. I don't expect you to call my cell, but it will be the last chance you have to talk to me. I hope one day you will forgive me and it might take me leaving to do just that. I love you. Your tattoo on your chest spells it for me. My eternity didn't mean to you what it meant to me. Love Woody."